Judgmental? Hey, Mediums Are Human, Too
Dear Bonnie: Do you ever feel that the people who should be the most spiritual can be the most judgmental? I am a working medium as well, and I would think people working with the spiritual world would be nice, and I am surprised at how jealous and mean others can be. What are your thoughts? -- Nancy
Dear Nancy: I remember when I first started working in this field, how happy I was that I would be working with like-minded people and thought we would all be one big happy family, but I quickly learned that working in the metaphysical world would have its challenges.
When I decided to use my gifts to help others, I sought schools that I could attend, including a very prestigious school in England, but what I found was that putting 50 to 100 psychic mediums together in one room is quite eye-opening. I remember calling one of my friends in New York, who is a working medium, with my concerns, and I listened as she told me the metaphysical world is very competitive and full of jealousy.
I couldn’t believe this was the way it was but quickly learned the hard way. We are all human and have these moments of, “I wish that were me,” or “How come she gets so much attention?” or “Why isn’t my work moving me forward?” But then I remember hearing God’s words: “Never mind what everyone else is doing. Put on your blinders and follow your own journey. It’s not always so easy.”
Judgment doesn’t just happen between other medium. It spills out into many areas of our lives. My husband and I were asked to become members of a local church in my hometown, Our former church had closed, and I thought this was a great opportunity to meet some new people and to help the community I had grown up in. We were asked to attend classes so the pastor could get to know us and vice versa. After the last class, the pastor asked us to go around the table we were sitting at with the other candidates and tell everyone what we did for a living. I knew saying I was a medium might have its downfall. When it became my turn, I stated that I was a medium and owned a healing and learning center. The others in the group seemed intrigued and started to ask questions and seemed to be very interested. I went up to the pastor assuring him that my work as a medium is always with God and the angels, and he seemed fine with that.
One week before the ceremony at which my husband and I were to become members, I was called into the pastor’s office. I knew he wanted to talk about my job, but never did I think I was going to hear the words, “You cannot be a member of this church.” He blamed the deacons for not wanting me to become a member. I asked him if he had talked to God about his decision, and he replied that he could not hear anything. I was crushed, walking out of a church and being judged for my work helping others.
Living in the same community, I started to run into the deacons of the church, and they were astounded when I told them what happened. A few of them even came to see me for readings, letting me know this was not their doing.
It’s so sad to think that people in the metaphysical world, and even the people that we hold to a higher standard, would think of judging each other, but it happens. Be true to yourself and your calling to serve by doing this work. God knows your heart. The rejection crushed me, and then God showed me he doesn’t leave you with people who are not going to honor you for you. Find your own tribe -- the people who will hold you up in the highest of regard, and never mind the people who do not. It’s all a journey.
Bonnie Page is a psychic medium and reiki master. She is available for private sessions at messages from Heaven Healing and Learning Center, 646 Central St., Suite 3, Leominster, or by telephone at 978-297-9790. If you would like to ask Bonnie a question for her column, email at bonniepagemedium.com .