Yes, Deceased Loved Ones Watch You (but Not in the Shower!)
Dear Bonnie: Do our loved ones watch us all the time? -- Lorraine
Dear Lorraine: That same question was asked recently while I was giving a reading. The mom coming through from spirit asked me to tell her daughter that she knew her loneliness and how she missed her mom at night. Her mom showed me herself sitting at the end of the bed, so her daughter felt the comfort of her presence. I relayed this to my client, and she explained she that indeed did feel something on the bed and most times thought it was the cat jumping up, but when she looked there was nothing there. The next thought her mom sent to me was, “Tell her I don’t watch when she’s kissing!” I started to smile and asked my client if that thought had just crossed her mind. The answer was, “Yes, of course!” Her mom assured me she had no interest in that and her daughter had complete privacy when needed.
This brings me to the famous question: “Is my loved one watching me shower?” I can say without a doubt that unless it’s a matter of safety with getting in and out of the shower, your loved ones are not spying on you. Protecting and guiding, but never spying.
Dear Bonnie: Do our loved ones keep their same bodies? -- Taylor
Dear Taylor: When I am conducting a reading, your loved ones come through to me looking like they did here on Earth. They might appear to be younger in age because they have the ability to go back to when they felt and looked their best. They can appear psychically younger and in good health. If your loved one had a leg removed while here on Earth, he will show me he is whole. Unless you would not recognize them as their younger self, they appear looking as you would know them. Many 90-year-old soldiers will come through showing me their picture when they were in the service when they were just 18. I have the ability to ask them to show me how they looked younger and older. If you would only recognize your Grammy as an older lady, that’s how she would appear.
That being said, in heaven we have no physical bodies. Until recently, I didn’t quite know what that would look like -- until the night before one of my events, when spirit showed me they were lining up and getting ready for the show the next day. I am sure they were letting me know: “No worries, we are ready.” I was able to see pure energy and light shaped with the outline of bodies lining up one-by-one. It was amazing and so beautiful to watch!
When I am privy to seeing into heaven, I do see your loved ones looking very much the same -- dressed as they did here, wearing glasses if they did here, and enjoying what they loved to do here on Earth. I see them at dinners and gatherings enjoying each other’s company.
I do tell clients, “If you like Dunkin’ Donuts, enjoy your coffee and doughnut now,” because I never see them actually eating or drinking. They don’t physically need to do that anymore. Someone coming through that had a sweet tooth while here on Earth might show me a birthday cake if a celebration of a birthday is near, telling me to tell them to “have a piece for me.”
Dear Bonnie: Do the departed feel bad if we don’t go to the cemetery? -- Brad
Dear Brad: No, but they do often tell me, “Please tell my loved one” I see them planting flowers, visiting the cemetery, cleaning up around the stone. They very much do appreciate the thought and concern you have for them. It shows you honor them, and they are grateful. They are not in the cemetery (except when you’re there), but they do try to leave you a sign to let you know they are close by. I have been visiting my parents’ grave and taking care of the flowers, and every time I go, I hear (not see) a cardinal talking up a storm to me. I always smile and say hello to my parents and thank them for their sign. Last time, as I was pulling into my driveway, a cardinal flew right past the front of my car. I let them know that was pretty fancy.
Bonnie Page is available for private readings and classes at Messages from Heaven, Healing and Learning Center, 646 Central St., Leominster, or by calling 978-297-9790. Email questions for the column to firstname.lastname@example.org and include a phone number (not for publication).