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Mother’s Day

May 7, 2019

For many, Mother’s Day is a holiday that can hurt.

The people who feel such pain are most often those who have lost their mothers to the ravages of time. Their deaths have rendered further personal contact impossible, and only memories remain.

Another group should pay keen attention to this development. They are the children of mothers who remain alive, but are long past their prime. They’re in the final stages of their life’s journey, and often find themselves living as shut-ins or residing in assisted-living or nursing homes.

Let’s face it, visiting your mother in such a situation isn’t all that easy either. Your heart longs to see the young woman who lovingly raised you from birth, but instead, you see someone who often is ill and suffering. Some people, perhaps many, avoid such visits because they find them too painful.

But that pain doesn’t compare with the stinging feeling of loss death brings. Furthermore, if you didn’t make a habit of seeing mom much during her twilight years, the pain death brings is intensified with a feeling of guilt.

There is a way to soften this blow. Visit your mother frequently, on this coming Mother’s Day (Sunday) and a whole lot of other days. Set a goal, and a minimum of one visit per week seems reasonable. Unless distance prevents it, don’t just call her on the phone. Show up and let her see your face.

Regardless of how good or bad she feels on visiting day, a smile is sure to form on her face the moment you walk through the door. There’s only one way to witness it. Don’t wait until it’s too late.