A million reasons to focus on family
I am addicted to ABC’s “A Million Little Things” for a million little reasons.
The show revolves around four couples in their late 30s or early 40s, and all the complications of their very complicated lives. The pilot opened with a suicide, and subsequent episodes have revealed infidelity, cancer and alcoholism, not to mention the daily struggles of parenting.
My husband isn’t a fan because it’s “too real,” but that’s exactly what I love about it.
We live in a state of unexpected drama. I’ve worked through enough issues of late to deplete my emotional reserves. Decisions made by a relative with dementia caused my family increased worry about her safety. Health issues have arisen with a friend and relative. A dear friend’s long-term relationship hangs in the balance.
Every time I turn a corner, I’m faced with a decision for my graduating senior — a decision about how and when she will move out of our home, and start her new adventure, without us by her side every single day. (Sniff.)
Upcoming holiday plans have hurt feelings. The negative midterm election commercials, our political climate, and the news in general have seeped into my psyche daily. These are all real issues in my life, and somehow watching a show depicting other big issues has helped me release some of my own stress. It also has helped me think, reflect and pause.
In one episode of this TV drama, the plot focused on something as simple as Pizza Night. Every Friday, the friends gathered for homemade pizzas, conversation, family, patio and stories. Stories about each other. Stories about how they met. Stories about their adventures together. Stories about their kids, and stories about their future.
They declared just one rule: “Everyone is invited.”
For the characters, the importance was placed on tradition, showing up and consistency. Also, it was not an exclusive group. Teenagers welcomed their friends. One mother brought her father. Old friends invited new friends. People simply gathered to be together. I loved this idea.
I love the simplicity of Friday Night Pizza, even though attempting it weekly would be nearly impossible for us to manage. But everyone would be invited. Knowing your dear friends, champions, family, and children would slowly start arriving to end the week together hit every single one of my feels.
I encourage us all to focus on this theme of simply being together. We should create traditions, cook meals, sit on patios, and watch movies together. Don’t let it stop with the holidays and events. Our relationships with friends and family rely on everyday texts, supportive notes, unexpected hugs — and Friday Pizza Nights.
It’s our chance to be connected, and everyone is invited.
Danielle Scroggins is a writer based in North Texas.