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Flinn’s love letters: ‘You are my heart, soul, mind and body’

May 24, 1997

MINOT AIR FORCE BASE, N.D. (AP) _ She found love notes to her husband under the car seat, in his pockets, in his soccer bag.

There were postcards of sunsets and cards with hearts, a key to the house, a tape of love songs. And long, flowing letters from 1st Lt. Kelly Flinn to her married lover about how they would be together forever.

``You have my heart, soul, mind and body,″ Flinn wrote Marc Zigo last summer. ``I want to be with you forever and I will fight for it.″

Zigo’s ex-wife, Gayla Zigo, released copies of Flinn’s love letters on Friday, the day after Flinn accepted a general discharge, ending her Air Force career and avoiding a court-martial on adultery, fraternization and disobedience charges.

The love notes would have been used against Flinn in a court-martial.

``She thought she was untouchable,″ Gayla Zigo told The Associated Press on Friday. ``She knew what she was doing. She just didn’t care.″

Sitting in an office at Minot Air Force Base on Friday, the 22-year-old airman stationed at Minot said Flinn had no one to blame but herself.

``I’m sick of seeing Kelly Flinn portrayed as the victim,″ she said. ``It really hurt.″

Flinn has said she was duped by Marc Zigo, a man she now calls ``detestable.″ Flinn has said she thought Zigo, the base’s civilian sports director, was separated and would eventually marry her.

Zigo, 24, and Flinn, who is single, began their affair about a week after the Zigos moved into their military home on the remote prairie base near the Canadian border.

The Zigos had been married a year, after a long courtship that began at a naval base in Japan where Marc Zigo was a base seaman and Gayla Nicolay was a self-described military ``brat.″

Marc Zigo has since left the Navy on disability.

The first year of marriage was wonderful, Gayla Zigo says, with flowers, cards, and a ring with 22 diamonds on their first anniversary. They planned to settle at Minot, start a family, buy a puppy and build a new life. Then her soccer-crazy husband caught the eye of the ``bomber baron,″ the only woman on the base soccer team. Flinn even helped the new couple move into their home.

Gayla Zigo says that from the start, Flinn flaunted her officer status, constantly partying with enlisted men at bars and at her house. The fraternization against Flinn stemmed from another affair with an enlisted man.

When she found the love notes, Gayla Zigo went immediately to her superiors. She said Flinn called her in panic.

``She was crying and pacing and saying `I’m sorry, I’m sorry. One day we’ll burn these letters together.′ She was so afraid. She said, `how am I going to fly tomorrow?‴

Flinn ignored an order to stay away from Zigo. Instead, he moved into her house after a failed suicide attempt in December, when Gayla Zigo told him the marriage was over.

She filed for divorce at the same time as her husband headed off to Georgia to meet Flinn’s family.

``I don’t hate anyone,″ said Gayla Zigo. ``There is only so much hate you can have and then you have to let it go. But I want to be an officer some day. And this is not how officers should behave.″

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