esoTerry: Have you found your soul mate?
Soul mates — everybody seems to be looking for their soul mate — or has found their soul mate, or is trying to mold their current special someone into their soul mate. You hear it everywhere, right?
What most people mean by that is their “ideal” mate: The perfect blend of physical appearance, romantic nature, financial well-being, emotional maturity, personal history, political viewpoint, spiritual beliefs, and on and on. The point is, you look for the “one” who is a perfect fit with your individual personality.
But what if we weren’t meant to be with one person forever?
James Van Praagh, internationally renowned medium, believes that you don’t have just one soul mate; you have many. In his book, “Adventures of the Soul: Journeys Through the Physical and Spiritual Dimensions,” Van Praagh describes soul mates as a group of souls with whom you have shared many lives and relationships, with the goal of helping each other to learn specific lessons. And because you have been together, both in the physical worlds and in the great beyond, you often recognize them when you meet.
That recognition can be described as the feeling that you’ve known each other your whole lives, after having talked for just a few minutes. It can be as simple as them seeming so familiar, like you’ve met before. Being around that person can hold a sense of ease, of comfort, of instant liking.
And because you have more than one soul mate, they show up in your life in relationships other than as potential mates. Sometimes they show up as your best friend, a parent, or a sibling. Maybe even a pet. And the lovely thing about having these familiar souls around you is that they help you to learn and grow, as you help them.
So what do you do if you haven’t yet found a soul mate? The one who is destined to be an actual mate in this life? There are a few things you can do.
First of all, remember that everything happens in Divine time. It may be that you aren’t supposed to meet him or her until later in life. (That could be teaching the lesson of patience or independence or service to others.) Try working on enjoying your life as it is right now. Stop worrying about finding the right person and know that it will happen when it is supposed to.
And recall that “like attracts like.” Are you someone who the person you want would want in return? Use your time constructively to make yourself your best you. Learn to love yourself and be happy. Do the things you like to do, instead of sitting at home or going places just to try to meet people. Enjoy walks in nature, going to movies or eating out. Develop closer friend relationships. Take classes to learn new things, like yoga, foreign languages or artistic pursuits. Learn to be comfortable in your own skin.
Listen to your intuition. It is always there to guide you. And some day when you least expect it, you might get the urge to go somewhere or do something. When you listen to that urging, you may meet a very interesting person with whom you are so comfortable. Trust your instincts. They might lead you to your perfect soul mate.