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Alzheimer’s Patients Forgive Their Children Once They’ve Passed

August 7, 2018

Dear Bonnie: I was wondering about people who have Alzheimer’s. We had to put my mom in a nursing home, and she had this disease. I often feel regret and worry that she did not understand, as she passed in her sleep at this nursing home. It leaves my heart heavy. Do you think she knew this was our only option? -- Pauline

Dear Pauline: I know your mom would not want you to feel regret at the choices you needed to make.

I often have clients that come in wondering if their parents who had Alzheimer’s could understand or hear the words that were spoken to them. I can assure you that even though it didn’t seem that they could hear in the physical world, their soul heard every word that was spoken or whispered in their ear.

Your mom knows the love and concern you had for her and the love you hold in your heart.

Our bodies may not last forever, but our soul is eternal and carries all the information within ourselves. Our soul has had many lifetime journeys and will continue until the day we decide we have learned all the lessons we want to learn, as our soul continues to expand and learn from each lifetime here on Earth. We come down to Earth with our soul family, which was formed before our journey began. You picked your mom and dad and the rest of your family (yes, even your siblings) for the lessons and things your soul wanted to learn in this lifetime. Your siblings and soul family can be here to teach you some of those toughest lessons.

The Earth is our school room, a place to learn, and heaven is our home. It’s hard to think we picked certain lessons to learn while here this time on Earth.

Making tough decisions might have been something you chose to learn so your soul would recognize certain aspects of feelings and emotions. As we learn our lessons that we chose here, our hearts and souls open up to greater knowledge and love. We understand what it feels like to have had to make hard decisions that affect others.

If we look at the circumstances that happen to us in our everyday lives, we start to realize there is a lesson in almost every choice or situation that is happening to us. As we look deep into our trials and tribulations, we can try to decipher what lessons are hidden in the problems we are experiencing.

Many people go through life trying to learn the same lessons, making the same mistakes in their lives over and over again until one day a light bulb goes off and they see the lesson for what it is. This is when they can see the lesson and learn from it. Every lesson is not a punishment, but a way for our soul to keep growing.

I often tell my clients that if there were no trials and tribulations in our lives, and everything was always happy and carefree, our souls would not be able to learn the valuable lessons that we all came down here to learn. Our hearts and souls open up and expand as we learn empathy and how to feel compassion and sympathy for others. It makes us better people when we know how others are feeling and we feel for them. We all are learning these lessons.

When we realize what the lesson is, we can say, “Thank you, I understand,” handle it with grace and then ask that the lesson be taken away.

When we get to heaven is when we find out in our life review how we did with the lessons we chose -- not to judge, but to see where we handled things and learned from them, or how we could have done better.

I tell clients, “Learn your lesson this time around so our souls can grow, and we don’t have to bring the same lesson with us next time we come back to the Earth plane.”

I am not immune to these lessons myself, so I know how hard it is to have a parent who has Alzheimer’s and has to be in a care facility. I now understand the lesson of having no control over certain situations and having to surrender to that feeling. I know why I had to learn that lesson as I always want to be in control. There is a deep-hearted feeling when you seem to have no control over what is happening in your life and the feelings that come with it -- I now understand this.

Know in your heart that you did the very best with your mom in the situation you were given. Our parents only feel the love we have for them, and their souls know the lessons that had to be learned. Heaven is our home and their souls are now free from any disability and illnesses they had while here on Earth.

I used to tell my father, who was brought up having horses, “Dad, you get to have all your horses back when you get to heaven,” and he would say, “I’ll have a herd.” I see him now in heaven, and when he shows up, he brings his horses with him.

They are now watching out for us and hear our thoughts and prayers, so have no regrets. It’s only the love that matters.

Bonnie Page is a psychic medium and reiki master. She is available for private readings and reiki sessions at Messages From Heaven Healing And Learning Center, 646 Central St., Suite 3, Leominster, of by telephone at 978-297-9790. If you would like to ask Bonnie a question for her column, email bonniepage@verizon.net .

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