Mothers of Twins Meet to Swap Stories, Secrets and That Extra Crib
Jul. 25, 1990
GRAND RAPIDS, Mich. (AP) _ Mothers who are used to seeing double are gathering this week to focus on a single, sometimes perplexing topic: raising twins.
''We're there for that new mom who comes home from the hospital with two babies and doesn't know how to cope - when to sleep, when not to sleep; for the mother whose 2-year-olds are running in opposite directions,'' said Lois Gallmeyer. She is executive secretary of the National Organization of Mothers of Twins Clubs Inc.
About 250 of the group's 12,581 members are gathering for a weeklong, annual meeting to swap secrets and stories and hear about the latest parenting research about twins, Gallmeyer said Monday. The Albuquerque, N.M.-based organization, with 361 clubs, also is celebrating its 30th anniversary.
Gallmeyer said the organization's main purpose is to support mothers who face unique decisions when it comes to raising twins.
''There's whether to separate them or leave them together in class; should there be one cake or two at birthday parties; should you dress them the same?'' Gallmeyer said.
''It's all a matter of mixing and matching to explore what suits your family.''
One of the biggest problems, she said, is that twins tend to be treated as one unit. ''Almost any adult twin will tell you he or she wanted to be treated more as an individual,'' she said.
Claudia Goss of Macomb County, northeast of Detroit, has been a club member for 21 years, since her twin boys were 9 months old.
''I think the biggest worry for me was always safety. It was a matter of trying to outthink two little ones,'' she said. ''When one is falling down the stairs and the other is plugging a finger into a light socket, you have a real problem.''
But Gallmeyer - whose twin 15-year-old sons are trying to get their driver's licenses - said the group is trying to shatter the myth that twins add up to double trouble.
''We don't believe that,'' she said. ''We think it's double love.''