Something You Want, Need, Wear & Read

December 23, 2018

Every Christmas for the last 5 or 6 years this is what we’ve done for our Christmas.

The idea is that you only give four gifts to each child: Something they want, something they need, something to wear and something to read.

WANT: A “want” gift gives us the chance to really listen to our kids and understand their passions. Instead of buying the hot toy of the season, we try to find out what makes them happy. We give them something they’ll really enjoy and use, and also avoid the meltdowns that can come from “gift disappointment.”

NEED: The “need” gift allows us to give our kids something they need that might relate to their learning or attention issue, without it being unexpected or a big deal. For example, a new set of “ear cymbals” (noise-cancelling headphones) or a backpack that’s easier to organize.

WEAR: A “wear” gift is when we can take into account each kids’ unique sense of style and any sensory issues, too. It may take a little more effort to find a soft, tag-less Batman sweatshirt, but it’s worth it!

READ: A “read” gift gives us a chance to choose titles and books that speak to their interests and reading level. We can think outside the box and not worry about making sure they’re getting traditional reading materials. They’re excited to receive graphic novels, books of LEGO-building ideas and even cookbooks.

Want, Need, Wear, Read has meant less chaos, clearer expectations and less disappointment for our family. And even with fewer gifts, both boys are now happier because they know they have a direct say in what they get.

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